Whenever a
flower starts to wilt, it isn’t too late. There is still time to save it, by
giving it extra love and care. I remember a science experiment I completed in
school; we had 3 seeds of the same flower. The first seed will be watered/taken
care of the same way as the other 2 except we had to say negative words daily.
The 2nd seed was our controlled.
We watered and took care of it the
same but we didn’t say anything to it. Lastly, the 3rd seed was
watered and taken care of the same as the other 2, and we told the seed
positive messages daily. Believe it or not, the seed that grew into the
healthiest and strongest of them all was the last one; the flower that started
off as a seed and grew and grew from positive encouragement. This experiment stuck
with me because words do have a huge impact on people and especially living
things in general like flowers!
Each and every one of us has gone
through a struggle that we think nobody knows. Truth is, I went through hell
and I always said “you don’t even know how hard it is.” One day... my boyfriend
said to me “no, I don’t... but I know how it feels to feel angry at the world
because of the struggle you went through.” It’s true, not every being on this
earth will know the past you’ve dealt with and the thoughts that haunt you to
this day, but that extreme hurt or sadness is in the PAST now. My boyfriend
told me “nothing will be as bad as that day that hurt you the most. Moving on
from that hurt should be the only thing you do. If you keep going back to that
moment in your life how will you find the strength to move on?”
Not everyone is bad in the world
and there is bound to be a person that has gone through something similar as
you.
The reason I chose the title of a
wilting flower is because it resembles the idea of healing and strengthening.
When I was at my lowest point my family and close friends told me I wasn’t
alone and that they were holding my hand throughout this journey. To be honest,
I have felt alone at times because I feel as if nobody will understand what is
going on inside my mind, and that is true but, the people who are helping me are
wanting to understand. I spent so
much time resisting the help that I forgot that support/love/and care are the 3
most important ingredients in order to continue to move on. It’s like breaking
your ankle; you take time to listen to the steps that are to come in the
healing process, and the first step is to regain the structure. Once you build
that structure, it’s safe to stand on. The next step that comes is
strengthening that ankle to full recovery. It may not match the other ankle
that didn’t break, but taking the time to keep working and fighting, it’ll
come.
The healing process of a broken
ankle is the same as the healing process of a mental disorder. There are
different parts that work separately but come together in the end. For
instance, a doctor puts the cast on the ankle that is injured and lays out a
path of recovery. Same goes for depression; a psychologist/psychiatrist lays
out tools to learn that will be useful in the future. The healing process looks
so long and rigorous in the beginning but once you start, the steps start to
fall into place. Once the cast comes off of the ankle the strengthening process
begins. The PT specialist helps and trains you to gain strength into the ankle
that is weaker; just like gaining strength inside your mind to move on each day
in a positive way.
Even though I’m using scenarios
that deal with a physical weakness and the other a mental weakness, it is still
the same process. For your day and the next days to come, make the choice: to
let your flower wilt or to grow stronger and gain insight on what you need to
better yourself. Each and every one of us is special in our own ways, use those
abilities to blow people away. Be confident inside and your confidence will
radiate and shine through.
Thank you for reading!
I truly appreciate your support.
Amanda
